I feel like this comment needs to get as much exposure as possible…
(copied from here)
I have a vague impression that “finding/returning to myself” is an accurate description of what needs to happen. Unfortunately, an accurate description of where I need to end up doesn’t teach me how to get there. Having a high resolution image of the Mona Lisa doesn’t help learning how to create a good painting. Likewise, a detailed lesson in the best way to do a single brush stroke also isn’t sufficient. It’s 100% accurate to say that what l need to do is make another million more brush strokes strokes with that same level of care. It’s the truth. but it’s not sufficient.
There are some very obvious things that aren’t right about my life, but they’re effects, not causes. I’ve gotten tons of advice for how to make a symptom less painful… and even a few suggestions of things that have helped other people treat their underlying causes.
I want to be crystal clear about something: if I don’t understand why something should work for me, then there’s a really good chance it won’t. That’s why I’m not a fan of “trying random things”. Experience in my life has taught me that doesn’t work. I need more than a “walk that way and see if it works” suggestion. I need someone to be able to say, “I recognize what you’re going through, and here’s a path that I’ve seen others in your situation successfully use to work through it.”
I’m not even convinced I’ve found anyone who recognizes it yet, much less has a solid idea of how to work through it.