Here’s a quote I ran across tonight:
You’ll never be able to find yourself if you’re lost in someone else.
I think the quote is true, and I’m betting that most of my friends know who I think I was “lost in”. The real trick is, though, that there’s a big distance between realizing that and knowing what to do about it. I had become so comfortable being “lost in” her, that my first instinct is to do it again with someone else.